The other day, I asked you on Facebook what you thought were the absolute WORST things to say to a pregnant lady, and here’s what you came up with!
#1 “Woah! Are you having twins?”
#2 “So when are you getting induced?”
#3 “Was it planned???”
#4 “WOW. You look awful/tired!”
#5 “You look like you could pop any minute!”
#6 “You DO know what causes that, right?”
#7 “Are you sure you aren’t due this month??”
#8 “Oh, you’re pregnant? I thought you had just gained a lot of weight.”
#9 “Wow, you look like you ate a whale!”
#10 “I’m glad I’m not you!”
#11 “You don’t need to be superwoman. Just get the drugs next time.”
#12 “Haven’t you had that baby yet?!”
#13 “You’re too young/old to be pregnant.” OR “You’re pregnant? At your age!”
#14 When they say, “Oh…I’m sorry,” when you tell them it’s a girl/boy and you already have one (or more) of the same gender.
#15 “Better get a C-section! You’re HUGE!”
#16 “Are your twins natural or did you take drugs?!”
#17 “OMG. You’re pregnant AGAIN?”
#18 “So you’re done now, right?”
#19 “Can I touch your belly??!” …as they are already touching your belly.
#20 “OMG, my friend, she had, like, the worst birth EVER…” and then proceed to tell you horror stories.
Are you SURE you’re not having twins?
Wow, you’re HUGE!
How bout say and do during pregnancy? I had a coworker say I finally looked knocked up. Never comment on size/weight–how huge she is or anything like that. Plus, I don’t know why all sense goes out the door when it comes to children (pregnancy or born)… Everyone thinks they can touch you without permission (or your child) & suddenly talk about taboo subjects or inappropriate things becomes the questions/topics of the day—mostly to do with private body parts.
I was working in a coffee shop when I was pregnant and I had to walk around with my hands on my belly like protective shields so people would keep their hands off of me!
Oh my gosh. I’ve never had kids (and not trying to yet!) but I already know my mouth is going to get me in trouble if these are the kinds of responses to expect! I’m sarcastic on a good day…add those pregnancy hormones in there and I’m sure I’ll be biting peoples’ heads off! Mental note: must be prayed up before becoming pregnant!!
I’m pregnant with our 4th. We have a 3, 2, and 1yr old currently. I have gotten almost every comment on the list. My Least/most favorite from this pregnancy was when a guy (who has 3 kids) asked me AND my husband in front of several people at church “you know what causes that, right?”….being a “seasoned” preggo I said, “yes, at least 4 times we knew what caused it :-P”. It may not be the best thing to say at church, but he asked so I answered.
Here’s a good one from my OB/GYN’s nurse. I called the office to explain I’d been feeling faint several mornings in a row and wondered if my blood sugar levels were ok. Her reply: “It’s probably just gas.” Really??
Courtney you have posed a question that is bringing back memories. Thankfully I can just laugh now.
Ah, co-workers…During my first pregnancy I was in a technical group developing a course we would then travel to teach. a) You #itch (husband of a couple going through fertility testing with no luck at that time) b) (read with disdain) How long do you think you’re going to have this “morning sickness”? c) (same person on a Wednesday) I’ve already worked 17 hours of overtime? How many have you been able to put in, in your condition? d) (And my favorite) You did this on purpose to get out of traveling so much. e) (At a morning meeting) Congratulations are in order to Joe and also to John. Their wives are expecting. (No Congratulations were ever offered my direction). Me being pregnant obviously was not a popular idea.
When I was at the hospital (with my husband next to me), checking in to give birth, a man came up to me and handed me a brochure for Planned Parenthood! I wanted to throw it in his face!
When I was pregnant with my son people said #13 “You’re too young to be pregnant.” all the time! I was 18/19(changed in the middle), but had been married for 7 months when I FINALLY got pregnant(we’d been trying). Sometimes I think people don’t realize what comes out of their mouths….
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Hannah I just thought I would comment by saying that I could not agree more. I mean like really telling a women she is too young!!!! Okay first of all, you telling her she is too young is not going to have zero effect what so ever. Second of all, if she gave a crap about your opinion on weather or not she was old enough she would say “do you think I’m old enough to be pregnant?” Finally, and most importantly, she is stressed enough already, especially if it is an unplanned pregnancy, you nagging her about something that is none of your damn business any way will only stress her out more. Oh and one more thing, you clearly think that she is a poisonous environment in which to raise a baby, but you are stressing her out and that is not good for the baby.
Ah! #3 “Was it planned?”. Totally ok for a close friend to ask, but I’ve had co-workers/customers ask me that…awkward! I wish I would have come up with some witty responses at the time.